Question and Answer Session

‍

Pastor Thompson Ehima, Reverend Olabode Busuyi

‍

Question 1: As a young lady living with my biological parent, how can I learn to take care of a child and be a mother when I am not allowed  to leave my parent’s home to stay with a family and my church does not permit me to spend time with the mothers? How can a single staying with a married family and working still be totally devoted to God? This is because one can be encumbered and feel overwhelmed, how can a single managed that? Also can a married woman help the single sisters staying with her not to get to that point?

‍

Answer: Your parents already have a sense of release to allow you worship in a different church. You can trust God to tell your parents to allow you to visit and stay out of house during weekends and holidays to visit families in church as a way to start getting used to family. When a person get married without that training of family life in terms of the initial tendering, you cannot really say how it can land on that person. Family life can be encumbering and we have seen ladies who nearly fell into depression. Instruction from the church is that a married woman takes care of the home, husband and child, and so she needs to develop capacity and if she is not exercised , we can’t be sure she can handle those things. Our mental composure is not the same and this is why we need to build that capacity. What needs to be done is to cultivate a communication platform with the parents to have the discussion and put this demand to either get it immediately or later.

‍

For the second question, for single people this phase means you have time to pray and study your bible to grow, if devotion to you is the length of time to pray and study then we need to know that windows of growth are not always the same, there can be a time where you have windom of hours of listening to messages, praying and reading book and another window of life may require service and don’t ever think you’re not growing. There are various seasons of learning to make a whole man, don’t think you’re not growing because the window of your life is not just studying long hours and praying. Jesus was a carpenter and we must know his father was not raising him as the son of God, but a jewish boy, so definitely he must have gone to the bush with the father and the ancient carpenters were calving, which is a tasking profession and he was growing not like a jewish boy but the son of God. There are seasons when you have to read and read, please do because that thing you’re eating is for another season.  Also when people live with us, we must know that people living with us are not as a family member but as a church family member and we don’t have the right to use the person the way we like and see that we don’t abuse the privilege. A person must not live with us and the woman of the house completely abstains from all work, we must know they are helping and being involved to ensure it doesn’t weary people from that culture. The Church must oversee those things to ensure it doesn't weary that culture but suistan it .

‍

Question 2: Good morning, I am struggling to submit to my pastor despite knowing I should, I also have a habit of postponing issues. Can you please offer some guidance?

‍

Answer: Nobody can force anyone to submit because it's a heart posture. I will advise you to keep hearing the message so faith can reach you to break that nature but ensure you don’t transfer that nature to someone else and don’t sow seed of your rebellion or insubordination, if you do that, you’re no more innocent. There also must be somebody in church you can be able to relate with, you must have people in church you must first of all relate with to help you with the challenge. But if this remains for a long time and is not dealt with, it will become evil.

‍

For someone who postpone issues, you have to be under leaders who can help you. It can’t be a thing you have only in church but a lifestyle, you have to be able to admit it to your leaders so they are not careful to relate with you in that regard but rather put you under pressure and supervision to get tasks done in timelines of hours so that soul can wake up out of that sluggish and procrastinative nature. That nature stems also from nonchalance and should be handled seriously. 

‍

Question 3: Good evening. My sister's husband has been cheating, and she's currently staying with her mother because he brings his mistress home when she's not around. It seems like their marriage might end in divorce soon. What advice can I give her, considering she doesn't feed on our allocation of doctrine ?

‍

Answer: No matter how much you’re concerned for her she is of age and she has a commitment of life by what doctrine she feeds on, the supply we give here is doctrine and what you can do is to pray for her that she will be willing and ready to get the answer to their problem and don’t take side with her because you don't know what happens in marriage no matter what she has told you, marriage matters is hideous matter that until people involved are ready to open up no one knows what is there. While praying pray that divorce matter will not be the next thing, in this case I always advise maybe separations because separation gives time. Divorce isn’t an easy matter especially when it doesn’t involve physical hurt and threat to physical life. Give her message and if possible ask her to see your pastor because every answer of life comes from doctrine.

‍

Marriage is a necessity for every man except when God instruct otherwise. The way we should be thinking in life is to want to get married, that thing that makes you think otherwise is a wrong programme and might have come from living in a system where marriage is not desirable but when we live close to people with good marriages we will desire it. Open yourself to marriages in church because two are better than one. When God is going to bypass that system in rare cases it will be obvious that that person doesn’t need it. For a sister that is 35 and not married and getting tired, it means weariness of the soul and when such a sister connects to the hope of  the gospel it sustains the hope. 

‍

Don’t let your experience be your limitation, rather let the good things you see become your point of desire, start changing your desires in the place of prayer. If at the end of the day you’re not married then nothing is lost and you can still be a good help to other marriages. Paul was not married but brought revelations to marriages. If marriage is a package that God has made for a man it will save him, and if a man is not in marriage he can also be saved.  Much as God can use marriage to save us, if a man is not so in need by incidence of life, God also has an arrangement for perfection for that man outside the marriage system as long as faith is the issuing factor.

‍

Question 4: Is it wrong to aim for a successful career and a comfortable life. 

What is the limit to how a believer should use ChatGPT and other AI apps?

‍

Answer: if you’re not in full time ministry you’ll belong in one area of life or the other and we ought to excel in that area of practice and that is not against faith. Talking about a comfortable life depends on your definition. It could be good cars, clothes but God wants us to live a life that is fulfilling to his purpose. The definition of comfortable life could be cars, houses and such things the bible mentioned that all these things the Gentiles seek and it’s not everything the Gentiles seek that we need. If we live by dream it can rob us of pursuit of life and when we want to seek the two together, we will lose the kingdom. People of the kingdom don’t seek comfort as a goal but convenience per time as a goal. There must not be a wastage in the kingdom, for everything we have there are things meant for per time and an extra to be kept.  What makes life comfortable is not how much of purchasing is done but how much excellence God put in our mind. Let our dream be to see the kingdom. If God wants you to start up from there he will make available a system without those things and you won’t die there. Comfort is effectiveness, speed to achieve results. Part of the training of faith is to trust the procedure of how God guides our life in progress and that lack should not be a limitation to our progress.

‍

The issue of AI is that AI has come to stay. It’s an evolving world and though it has a lot of things to supply, it’s not original. We must know that things we want to do must originate from us otherwise AI can rob us of creativity and originality and innovation, we should create first and use AI to drive it. Our own originality makes our work unique, We shouldn’t over depend on creativity and innovation and use AI to make it fast. It’s not supposed to be a problem, but if we depend on it, it can give direction where we don’t want to go by our own spirit and laws in our heart. When we depend on AI we can become more narrow on the inside, we won’t be vast because we wouldn’t task our mind. The real objective of AI is to stop us from evolving, for a generation that is sensual to kill inspiration and revelation.

‍

We will always need gadgets for effectiveness but when it becomes a thing of a button alone, it already disconnects us. How life is supposed to work is by involvement of legs, arms and body. Any gadget that is just punched then we should be careful,.the hand and leg should be used, they are designed for movement. If life convenient stops you from those two things, we need to be careful.

‍

Question 5: How can faith life really be defined? Reverend Busuyi said it’s by understanding and not just by saying it. How can I gain a deeper understanding of faith and discern the season I’m in especially when everything seems confusing?

‍

Answer: Faith is not what we need to get something, that’s basic faith. Faith is to give us life and not a thing. (Hebrews 11). Faith is designed to drive life and we need understanding for that faith. There must be a teaching and when we are taught there must be an understanding which makes faith. Faith doesn’t mean we know everything but gives us an assurance. When we have faith we won’t have fear. When we are learning faith we should learn with an understanding. 

‍